The Emasculation of the Modern Male

20 Mar

“Males are scumbags, males cheat, males always think about sex, males are heartless, males don’t care enough, males aren’t empathetic or sympathetic, males are rapists, males are pedophiles, males are violent, males discriminate, chivalry  is dead.”

These are messages often pervade in the media and even worse they are openly stated by women. I am sick of turning on morning television to hear 3 haggard and divorced 50 somethings complain how awful men are. The amount of times I have seen and heard ‘male bashing’ by women is astounding. It seems that if you are female you can make gross generalizations about the male gender and make derogatory statements without any regard for the discriminatory nature of the statements you are making. There is an assumed right  to discriminate, or demonise men. How do they get away with their discriminatory comments? If three men sat there complaining about women I doubt it would go to air.

Up until recently I would ignore statements like, ‘men are pigs’,  ‘men are all shallow’, ‘men are untrustworthy’, ‘men are sexist’. If I publicly made the same sweeping generalizations about women I would be branded a misogynist or a sexist.  This misandry and male bashing is out of control and the worst part is you have a lot of the male population believing this bullshit.

 ‘ oh yes we are terrible, we do stare too much, we are sexist, we don’t open doors enough, I should have paid on the first date’.

Enough of the self deprecation. I take exception to being bundled in with the scum. It is offensive and ignorant.

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Gross generalisations and gender profiling has increased scrutiny on males and seen a rapid decline of men in certain professions. Teaching is a perfect example. The huge imbalance of male to female school teachers (especially primary school) is of massive concern.

Where are the male role models?

If the tables were turned the up roar would be huge. Inequality would be screamed from the highest tower. But all I can see is the next generation of men and women growing up without any male authority figures to relate to, empathize with or interact with. From a young child’s perspective a women represents trust and safety and a man a represents distrust and danger. The growing distrust of men in society must have a negative affect on how  young children perceive men.  Also what effect does this have on a young males’ self esteem if all he sees is reinforced negative male stereotypes. The world we currently live in demonises all men in the hope that in this sweeping generalistaion we protect children from the evil 1 percent. The problem is the 99 percent are discarded and unjustly judged. How is that for discrimination?

I wrote an article about how men are not allowed to sit next to children on any airline around the world . An overwhelming response from females on the blog was,

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Well just ‘man up’.

To hear this from a female is not uncommon.

Effectivley this is saying, ‘put up, shut up and harden up’.  So as a male we have to accept discrimination, stop whining and get on with life.

What is the female equivalent?

Well there isn’t. For the sheer fact if you were to tell a woman to ‘put up, shut up and harden up’ you would be branded a sexist arsehole! After all aren’t we’re meant to be in touch with our emotional side? Well that depends what kind of week she is having. The fact is we are meant to tap into our emotional side when a woman needs an emotional crutch to to lean on but when that has passed the man is meant to be the stalwart, impervious to emotion that should simply adopt his male role and get over it. When a woman uses the term ‘man up’ it makes me laugh. Essentially she is saying ‘stop acting like a woman’. I bet if the latter was the accepted term it wouldn’t be as commonly used.

International Women’s Day occurred a few weeks ago and I was told by a female to spare a thought for women in the workplace and the discrimination they all suffer. Immediately I was taken aback. In my industry women’s rights are the of utmost importance so I took this guilt trip quite personally. So I asked her, have you ever experienced discrimination in your workplace?

Her answer, No.

Because we haven’t experienced discrimination in our industries doesn’t suggest that discrimination doesn’t exist. But I don’t think it is of epidemic proportions. I can almost feel some women screaming at the computer screens. But seriously have you been discriminated against in the workplace? Or are you just regurgitating a paragraph from The Daily Telegraph.  I believe that merit based promotion or job selection is the preferred tool used by most companies. But a worrying trend for certain women is to immediately default to their gender if they weren’t selected for a role.  It is easier to claim discrimination than actually have a discerning look at yourself and admit that you weren’t the best for the position.

Has another male been promoted over me in the past? Yes.

 Did I feel like I was better than him? Yes.

But instead of claiming unfairness or injustices I returned to my corner sought to better myself, strengthen my perceived weaknesses and prepared for another round. Blaiming males isn’t the answer to success it is just a temporary excuse for your own inabilities.

There are certain characteristics that men possess that I believe just come with the territory. We are visual beings.

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GET A GOOD LOOK COSTANZA

Several studies have shown that men react to visual stimuli more commonly than females. One such study, Sex Differences In Response to Visual Sexual Stimuli concluded that men appear more influenced by the sex of the actors depicted in the stimuli whiles women’s response may differ with the context presented. This being said, why are we constantly being made to feel like scumbags for looking. If women were designed the same way do you think they would tolerate this? They would claim this is who they are and they should just be accepted for what comes naturally. Studies further indicate that women take their cues from scenario based literacy.  How many women were made to feel bad for reading 50 shades of Grey. I saw several women reading this at work, on public transport and in cafes. This is just one paragraph from the book.

Excerpts 50 shades grey #4 – Anastasia has made friends with her ‘Inner Goddess’ 

“I pull him deeper into my mouth so I can feel him at the back of my throat and then to the front again. My tongue swirls around the end. He’s my very own Christian Grey-flavored popsicle. I suck harder and harder … Hmm … My inner goddess is doing the merengue with some salsa moves.” (137)

Is this appropriate for the work place? Is this appropriate on public transport? Effectively it’s porn for women. But if I was to pull out a playboy, penthouse or some other form of magazine that would appeal to my male visual senses I would be quickly removed from the area. Some may argue that the public could see the content of the magazine so it isn’t fit to read in public. I tend to agree. But by that rationale it should be ok to have a copy of fifty shades of grey and a penthouse sitting on the coffee table in the privacy of one’s home? How many women would be comfortable with a pornographic magazine sitting in their living room? But as men we are meant to view ‘Christian grey’s large engorged member’ as rather acceptable. So we are encouraged to suppress our male urges, even feel bad about it. Hide the magazines, delete the browser history and say 50 Hail Mary’s. How dare we!

Chivalry is a dead.

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The amount of times I have heard this phrase  is astounding. The reason it is dead ladies is that men are now so utterly confused that it is easier to leave you to your own devises. The word chivalry derived from a knights code;

“The Knight’s Code of Chivalry was a moral and honorable system that stated all knights should protect others who can not protect themselves, such as women, children, and elders. All knights needed to have the strength and skills to fight wars in the Middle Ages; they not only had to be strong but they were also extremely disciplined and were expected to use their power to protect the weak and defenseless.”

Rather archaic in it’s intention isn’t it. This suggests that women can’t protect themselves and need a man to institute a code to protect them. Such discrimination!

Is it any wonder males don’t want to hold a door open, lay their jacket over a body of water  or wait for you to be seated first. This would all suggest that you are in some way weaker and incapable of looking after yourself. So when you hear complaints about chivalry being dead don’t direct your disappointment at men. Take a look at yourself and the blood on your own hands.

Women have fought to achieve equality in Australia and some still fight but remember that not all males are against you. The feminist movement was about ending sexism and stereotypes. It was not about creating a new form of sexism. To put us all under the one banner seeks to turn friend into foe and compromises what you are setting out to achieve and that is equality. So when you are in public telling the world how terrible men are spare a thought for your father, son, brother or uncle. They are all men too.

Rant On.

4 Responses to “The Emasculation of the Modern Male”

  1. Sir March 20, 2014 at 5:23 am #

    Jeezuzzz, if a woman ever told me to man-up she’d better be sure I know what her safe word is.

  2. Capt May 28, 2014 at 2:13 am #

    Very true, “The feminist movement was about ending sexism and stereotypes. It was not about creating a new form of sexism.” At least someone is thinking clearly!

  3. biggayjohn March 2, 2015 at 5:43 pm #

    Heh, women also like to forget chivalry was a two way street it had a code for women as well and if they didnt follow then the men were not expected to follow.

  4. Bart March 12, 2015 at 12:01 pm #

    The emasculation of the male is a prequel to his role in the upcoming new world order ; voiceless, powerless, castrated, paralyzed. Remember that resistance is futile and we are all zombies to Jew domination.
    I say it’s time we boys got a pair and got ready to die for what we believe in.
    The day approaches !!

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